Writing, developing, and producing training material is essential for positive and healthy professional development. Over the past 25 years, Hulings & Associates, LLC has stood on the foundation of the following laws as the basis for all the material they present. These are not just phrases on a page, they are the roots that allow us to build deep and lasting results with each person and group we coach. They are not just the basis of what we write, they are the substance of who we are.
Law #1
What’s in the well comes up in the bucket. (Individual character determines long-term outcomes.)
Law #2
You reap what you sow. (You can’t expect to do something and not have the results show up later in your life, either for good or for bad.)
Law #3
We won’t accomplish goals our habits don’t support. (Goals only matter if you have the habits to support them. Modern-day goal-setting can be dreaming, not habit building.)
Law #4
The whole can only be as strong as the parts. (The quality of the whole team is determined by the quality of each of the individual players.) It is not the size of the undertaking you take. What matters is the depth of character of those that you take in your undertakings.
Law #5
For every action there is a reaction. (We do not live in a vacuum or on an island. Everything and everybody is affected by others.)
Law #6
Time is running out. (The longer you wait to improve your performance, the longer it takes to increase your productivity.)
Law #7
You get what you honor. (When you give your time, energy, resources, and attention to something, you give it honor. Whatever you honor is what you will eventually get.)
Law #8
A nursed grudge will give birth to a bitter child. (Unresolved problems produce unwanted outcomes.)
Law #9
There is more milk than manure in a barn moment. (In the difficult situations of life (barn moments), you can either fling manure or step around it and find the milk. Where there are cows there is manure, but if you want milk you must focus on the cows. The key is to avoid the manure in your attempt to get the milk.)
Law #10
For every pound of criticism there is an ounce of truth. (Mature people realize they have flaws. It is only the mature person who can take being informed by others about those flaws and will work on improving them in the context of healthy relationships.) Another way to say this would be, “I will not let the words of others determine my worth, but I will let them speak to my growth.”
Law #11
Fail to ponder your path, fail to create positive growth. (Those who fail to consider how they work and lead will fail to evaluate properly, and miss opportunities growth. Fail to ponder, prepare to wander.)
Law #12
How we are primed determines the direction we are aimed. Our life decisions often impact the narrative of our lives. But, the narrative of our lives always impacts the decision we make. (Narratives that are based upon false or distorted information will often create a fear and that fear will almost always lead to destructive decisions for our lives and, possibly, the lives of others.)
Law #13
Our emotional feelings are dictated by our cognitive framing. We often allow circumstances to determine how we feel. However, emotions can often take on a life of their own. When we frame the events of our lives in the right posture, we are able to put them into perspective. How we frame these events and circumstances with our mind, will, eventually produce the chemicals in our body that produce the emotions of our lives. It all starts with, however, how we frame an event.